don't date within your major

Dear Readers, 

Here’s what happens when you date within your major: major drama. So, I started dating this guy, let's call him Andrew. Andrew liked to move way too fast, before we had even been on a date he wanted to be exclusive. I don’t think that correlates to being in the same major, I think that was just a special quality of his. 

Either way, I thought he seemed nice and said yes. Reluctantly. The man was fucking crazy. I have never seen someone so slimy and mean to someone they supposedly care about. We were in class one day, and someone brought up the newspaper. “Don’t write for them, they are discriminatory,” That isn’t what he said but it’s along the lines of the stakes he set. So I agreed. Three weeks later, he has a job for them. 

We’re both writers, one day hoping to be published and well loved by our readers. He refused to read my pieces and make comments until I made some of his novel first. 

After a few other lines and boundaries crossed, I broke up with him. We had only been dating for a month and half when we decided to break up and remain friends. I thought he would’ve been cool, I had overestimated how emotionally mature he was.  A month went by and he was telling me all about his new girlfriend, and a lot of inappropriate details of their coital relationship. The funny thing was, he didn’t tell me had a girlfriend, never mentioned her, until he found out I had started talking to someone new. He had seen a text come up on my laptop with a heart emoji from a boy, and asked who he was. I down played it, brushing it off as just a close friend, but didn’t hide my flirty texts either once class started. Once we had a free minute he seemingly remembered his girlfriend of two weeks. 

Another week went by before I made the ultimate decision to end the friendship. I didn’t need to hear anymore details about their sex life and whatever else was going on between them. So, I told Andrew it was time for some separation. Then, he started talking about me in his other classes, confirmed by one of the other students. 

Long story short, don’t date in your major. Cause now for the next two years of graduate school, I’ll be having classes with my ex and having to pretend like he’s not a major weirdo. This was just a sort of diary entry more than anything, but I felt like the world needed to know this piece of advice. 

-Sofia Villafaña